This word from psychology has become increasingly used in the basic modern vocabulary. But who understands what this means is a big question.
That’s when they say: “There are a lot of frustrated people around” or “you’re frustrated.” What does it mean?
Let’s try to figure it out.
Frustration from the Latin “frustratio” – deception, failure, frustration, destruction of plans, futile waiting.
What is meant by this?
The person did something, made efforts, planned, expected some result they understood, but in the end, nothing happened.
In fact, it turns out that the person did something in vain, you can say idly and did not come to the intended result.
What happens next?
In the individual there is a need for compensation. Most often this happens on an unconscious level. He is not aware of this need for compensation. And most often it acts in the usual template way.
There are two types of compensation needs.
- Destructive – negative for the person.
- Developing – a reaction of great effort, the desire to learn, understand and achieve the desired result.
For example, a person has opened a business and invested in it a huge amount of resources (money, time, labor, etc.), as a result, goes bankrupt.
And at this point comes a state of frustration and, as a result, the need for compensation. And his future (short-term or long-term) depends on what type of compensation he chooses.
If the choice is destructive, then the person doesn’t accept responsibility for their actions, choices, for their own, even if negative, but the result of THEIR actions (in this case, erroneous). And so that this understanding does not penetrate into his consciousness, protective mechanisms are activated.
What do you mean defense mechanisms?
This is when a person begins to distort reality in any way, so that information does not reach his consciousness. The failure of a business is only its responsibility. It seems so painful to admit that these protective mechanisms are activated. This files most often manifest in the form of a projection on something external.
A person begins to blame anything or anyone outside, but not himself (this is the crisis to blame; the country is bad; all the thieves are around, and I’m honest, so I failed; you have to go “over the heads”, and I’m good so I can’t; bad luck; the plot of masons; and so on).
There can be an infinite number of variants of projections, accusations of someone or something from the outside. But the point is the same: to shift the responsibility for your failure to something external.
And the danger is that the longer a person is in this state, the more it strengthens, “pours into the granite” this frustration. This means that in this way he closes all new horizons in front of him. He doesn’t see them, all the energy is spent on creating an alibi and supporting it. And a person destroys this position of themselves,and sometimes others.
The second type of compensation is developmental. This is when a person, rejecting the inner fear of realizing reality, accepts responsibility (not to be confused with a sense of guilt!) over the results. And he admits that it didn’t go, because he made a mistake somewhere, chose the wrong people, didn’t take into account something, did not have enough knowledge, and so on.
And realizing this, humbly accepting responsibility for the result of their actions, begins to develop, gain knowledge, experience, or something else that they consider important. And the new one without closing its horizons, without killing (suppressing or displacing) the ambition in itself, waits for an opportunity and begins its new path in business.
This applies to all areas of life. Relationships, work, business, etc.
And if a person is constantly frustrated, even his face changes, as if the imprint of eternal dissatisfaction and lack of satisfaction with his life appears on it. Well, as a rule, this condition becomes toxic to others.
I wish everyone to overcome the fear of taking responsibility for the result and choose development and satisfaction from life!